A vicious circle of loosing confidence and failure

               Are you stuck ? You feel lost ? Life seems to have no way to ahead ? Yess !! You heared it right , i am talking of the very common situation in all of our lives.  It may be a broken relationship or a failure in exam   a lost job or a broken hope , but whatever it is it leaves us broken and scattered.

We loose all our confidence and there seems no way to go!! So much negative !! Yeah ??? But its a fact ,  a very common fact in our lives.

But a severe condition leads to a fotmation of vicious circle in our lives. Well !! This is really a complicating situation and is not very normal and common. We get trapped in a cycle , which never seems to end.

Let me explain ! First of all let me give you a excat definition of a vicious circle . It means : a 

repeating situation or condition in which 

One problem causes another problem thatmakes the first problem worse

Now do you get it ? Yess !! But You are not the only one , many feel tge same and trust i too was once in such a mess.

The results of one thing come negative which breaks us entirely and then we unknowingly start loosing our self confidence which further makes us loose and fail !!

Manier times we stop working , we dont feel like doing anything , we stop being social , alienate ourselves , packup in a room , do nothing but sit idle for long hours , think a lot , roll down tears and just  emd up loosing what we have already had.

Now when we have actually understood the exact problem lets talk of some solutions to it .



Confidence is not something that you acquire and then can forget about it. It requires constant work and maintenance to keep self-confidence high. Like keeping a sailboat on course, we need to continuously make adjustments to reinforce our confidence.

Let us begin !! 🙂

Make a decision to lose yourself completely in your work. Get so absorbed in it that you enter a state of flow. Let the dancer become the dance.

Building self-efficacy is a great way to develop confidence.

Reflect on your past successes. They don’t have to be related to what you’re trying to achieve right now. They just have to be your successes.

Empower yourself with visualizations.

Visualizing yourself succeeding is another powerful approach.

Have you watched an elite athlete just before a hundred-meter sprint? She looks intensely at the finish line and visualizes herself sprinting down the track faster than anybody else in the field.

In fact, she’s visualized herself winning the race hundreds and thousands of times to prepare. That’s how she prepares to give her very best over those hundred meters.

Repeatedly visualizing success can actually rewire your brain. It creates positive neural pathways that restore the natural confidence you had as a child.

Not only does this stop you from thinking negative thoughts, but it actually replaces negative thinking with (confidence boosting) positive images.




Cultivate a positive opinion of yourself and learn to value it over others’.

We all look to authority figures for approval during our developmental years. In fact, this feedback is essential for our social development.

But as you grow older and gather life experiences, you must scale this back.

Now, I’m not suggesting other people’s opinions don’t matter, they do—up to a point.

You’ve got to recognize that we all haveunfounded prejudices based on our individuallife experiences—this includes those authority figures.

It’s one thing to learn from constructive criticism and use it to better yourself.

But, to get overwhelmed by others’ opinions of you? That’s an unskillful approach.


Some more very simple to do tricks :-

1. Make three lists: one of your strengths, one of your achievements, and one of the things that you admire about yourself

2. Think positively about yourself. Remind yourself that, despite your problems, you are a unique, special, and valuable person, and that you deserve to feel good about yourself. Identify and challenge any negative thoughts that you may have about yourself, such as ‘I am a loser’, ‘I never do anything right’, or ‘No one really likes me’.

3. Pay special attention to your personal hygiene: for example, style your hair, trim your nails, floss your teeth.

4. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.

5. Eat good food as part of a healthy, balanced diet. Make meal times a special time, even if you are eating alone. Turn off the TV or radio, set the table, and arrange your food so that it looks attractive on your plate.

6. Exercise regularly: go out for a brisk walk every day, and take more vigorous exercise (exercise that makes you break into a sweat) three times a week.


Set small goals — and achieve them!

Sometimes a big goal can be overwhelming. Believe me, when I needed to lose 160 pounds of fat that could have been way too intimidating for me. Each small goal you achieve brings you closer to your large, exciting goal. But also, for every small goal you achieve, you will become more confident in your ability to achieve greater success.

Note :- some of the content is inspired from sites like tinybuddha and psychologytoday !! 🙂


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